Tuesday, August 08, 2006
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
Current mood: grateful
My bible study this morning was on communicating with my spouse. I’m not sure why God thought I needed that lesson-He must not be aware of my amazing listening skills and my even more astounding speaking skills! I am the Queen of Communication!
Okay, clearly, the above paragraph is total bull. I am like an elephant in a china shop when it comes to trying to get someone to understand me-especially in a disagreement. Jeremy is the one person who comes face to face with that ugly elephant more than any other. Thankfully, he is a pretty patient gent, and while I am not (patient or a gentleman), we balance each other well, and teach each other a lot.
Learning how to respect my husband as a man has served me well throughout the past several years. We are coming up on our 10th anniversary-but only by God’s grace. The first 3 years of our marriage were rocky to say the least. I was hellbent on getting my way, using the excuse “that’s just the way I am”. I have since discovered that even if “that is the way I am”, that’s not the way I should act or treat people, especially my husband. He is the man I trusted the rest of my life with, the man I chose to become one in Christ with, the man I have given my innermost heart to, the man I trusted to raise children with, and most importantly, the man. God has placed him above me, and me beside him-to help him, to guide him, to love him, to support him. Never once does God put me in charge of our family, no matter how much I disagree. If I can’t trust my marriage to God, where on earth else would I turn?
(I stole the title of this blog from Dr. Laura’s book, titled the same)