Tuesday, January 09, 2007

Current mood: productive
Category: Friends
For the past couple of months, I’ve struggled with the idea and concept of accountability. I’ve always been the kind of friend to lay it on the line, cut to the punch, and try to separate feeling from fact. Oh, trust me, it’s gotten me in trouble a time or two. In fact, I’ve lost a couple of very close friends because of it. One friend of mine left her husband and four kids for a twenty-some year old “man”, and I confronted her about the reality of the choices she was making, and the effect it was going to have on her children and the rest of her life. I’ve chatted with her a couple of times since then, but it’s been several years since there has been any contact. She cut herself off to the point that I don’t even know her new last name.

Do I miss her? Very much. In fact, still, some 8 or 9 years later, I will find myself missing her so much there will be tears in my eyes and a hollow feeling in my gut. Do I regret what I did? Not at all.

God has called us as Christians and followers of His Son to speak truth into the lives of those we love. A lot of times, the truth sucks to hear and the truth sucks to be made known. But, bottom line…truth is still Truth. That is what makes it so sacred and so, well, true. Nothing can tamper with the truth. It is the antithesis of falsehood, and lies cannot penetrate truth no matter how hard we try to allow it to, according to our convenience.

The reason I’ve struggled with this concept these past couple of months is because again, I have opened my big mouth and spoken truth to a friend of mine. Before opening said mouth, though, I opened my heart and mind to what God was telling me to do. It was something I had been in, what seemed, constant prayer for. I didn’t want to damage the friendship, and more importantly, I wanted to see Christ as the center of her life once again. Unfortunately, the friendship was damaged, and pretty badly. I don’t know what’s going on with her relationship with Christ, and it’s possible I never will.

Do I miss her? Very much. Do I regret what I did? Not at all. It bites to be on this side of the fence, wondering what’s going on in her life, wondering if she’s making God-centered decisions, and praying for Godly sacrifice of this world and all of the things associated with it. I hate the fact that I was the one who hurt her, but I’m thankful that I was at least one of those who God has chosen to speak the truth into her life.

I believe very firmly in my heart, in my mind and in my gut that I did what was expected of me. Every single day since then, God has reminded me in black and white that we are to hold each other accountable to His Word. He has told me through sermons, scripture, billboards, blogs and the spoken word that we are responsible for keeping our friends accountable, whether they think they need it or not.

“You adulterers! Don’t you realize that friendship with this world makes you an enemy of God? I say it again, that if your aim is to enjoy this world, you can’t be a friend of God.” James 4:4
Don’t be afraid to speak God’s truth. Even when it hurts to do so. Even when your heart breaks, knowing you put a wall between you and a loved one. God is so much bigger than any wall could ever be…
Happy are people of integrity, who follow the law of the Lord. Happy are those who obey His decrees and search for Him with all their hearts. They do not compromise with evil, and they walk only in His paths. You have charged us to keep your commandments carefully. Oh, that my actions would consistently reflect your principles! Then I will not be disgraced when I compare my life with your commands. When I learn your righteous laws, I will thank you by living as I should! I will obey your principles. Please don’t give up on me! How can a young person stay pure? By obeying your word and following its rules. Psalm 119:1-9

Currently watching:
The Legend of Frosty the Snowman Collection: Frosty the Snowman/Frosty Returns/The Legend of Frosty the

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